I stumbled across a comment the other day which made me cringe. “We don’t accept couples into our guild unless one of them is on social only status.” A little further on there was a remark about how “sooner or later, the one will break the mould and say they won’t go without the other”. From what I’ve seen they’re not the only guild to opt for this rule. In fact it seems quite a common practice.
I find it sad. And it makes me angry.
Now, I can thoroughly understand why some people might think this way, if they’ve had to put up with “I’m not going without……” time and time again regularly. It makes things majorly difficult choosing who goes on a 25 man raid, and nigh on impossible on a progression 10 man.
I can understand it if one half of the partnership is great, and the other can’t raid their way out of one of those cheap plastic carrier bags which split and spill all your groceries as soon as you head out into the supermarket car-park, your Tampax and uber giant chocolate bar falling at the feet of the really hot guy with the awesome car. It happens.
But there’s also a part of me which feels like it’s another unrecognised “ism”. A discriminatory factor that’s somehow perfectly acceptable where racism and sexism are not. I may be a decent raider, and a good team member who never stands in the fire, but then …OMG they won’t let me be part of the team because of who I fuck?
HOW does this get passed as being acceptable? If I was turned down because of my age, or my race, or any other reason, it would be deemed as bigotted. And what if I’ve got a ring on my finger but I play with a WoW spouse instead? I guess that doesn’t count against me?
It annoys the hell out of me because there are so many assumptions being made. That one will not play without the other. That being in a couple means you’re joined at the hip. That the one only knows what they know because the other is a WoW hardcore player and the partner’s only playing because of it. And it annoys me to think that I may be viewed as “the exception to the rule.” It’s simply not true.
“I’m raiding tonight.” “Oh. I guess I’ll be levelling another alt then.” Way to go. In many other pursuits, couples can spend quality time together. Dancing, hiking, mountain biking, whatever. But here we have a situation that’s positively discouraging couples to play together.
People only see the potential for drama, they don’t see the advantages. You know someone. You know how they’re going to act, how things are going to be. Hell, you’ve got people likely to be in the same room who can communicate VERY quickly.
I’m not the only married woman out there. There’s a number of others on my regular reading list. All of us it would seem in sensible guilds who don’t ostracise someone because of who they’re sleeping with.
Guess Grumpy Tree is Grumpy today. But it still seems like a bigotted attitude to me……
And because I’m grumpy and this is about couples….I shall post a link to a Coupling clip which never fails to cheer me up. I’m still trying to work out the cushion thing myself…..