I am bloody furious.
Yesterday, I logged on at about 4.15pm to do some Therazane dailies. I headed over to the cave with the annoying worm in it, grabbed my quest item and tried to go blow up rocks for the gems in it. And found myself being followed by a level 85 Alliance nelf druid. Who kept placing the Therazane quest bombs at my feet. And blowing me up.
Okay, the first time I thought it was an accident, we were fairly close together. The second, third and countless times afterwards, it became apparent that this character was doing it to me deliberately. I wandered off and blew some more rocks up, and found them following me and planting bombs at my feet. I stopped and said in /say “Why are you following me?”. No answer. This carried on for a few more minutes.
A little bit pissed now, I sent them a whisper telling them that if they didn’t stop it, I’d report them. Still no answer. And they carried on doing it. I asked them again to stop – in capitals now, as I was getting REALLY pissed off. It carried on.
I was getting to the point where I was pretty darned shaken from the lack of response. So I finally opened a ticket and reported it, because I felt this was griefing and I was getting nowhere with my dailies.
Then I get a whisper from another player, informing me they thought it was silly I was going to report this. It was their 5 year old son playing on the husband’s account.
Yeah. Okay. Of COURSE I’m going to effing assume that this 85th level character in the Therazane area is a 5 year old. Natural assumption, isn’t it?
I pointed out that they were stopping me doing my dailies, and that I’d asked them to stop hassling me.
“He can’t read.”
So, think I…you let your 5 year old son play on your husband’s account, you don’t supervise him enough to see that I’m pissed off with his actions, and you accuse ME of being silly?
Finally I said I’d cancel the ticket if they got him to stop. And they told me they’d asked him to do so. I cancelled the ticket. Which somehow got answered anyway, and I sent a follow up to say that it was a child, that I’d spoken to the parent and it had all been sorted amicably. I even -finally- got a “so sorry :)” from the parent.
But it left me with a bad taste in my mouth. And feelings of needless guilt.
I posted about what had happened in a WoW community, and was promptly deluged with lots of responses, telling me they’d have done the same thing too, that I was well in order, and a number of mothers were horrified at the idea of letting a child that age play unsupervised. I also got a number of more cynical/realistic people telling me they weren’t so sure it was a child. I’m semi-inclined to believe it the more I think about it….
As the evening progressed, I realised I was more shaken than I’d initially thought. And angry. I was angry because I’d spent ten or so minutes being griefed, only to have someone accuse me of being silly, of over-reacting to the situation.
And the more I thought about it, the more angry I became.
Angry because they were all “he’s only a child, he can’t read, you’re being silly” at me – which pisses me off no end. Your child is your responsibility. You take responsibility for his actions. What I initially received was a passive aggressive blame dump. And that made me snarl inside. EVERY SINGLE ONE of my friends with children would have reacted in a more “OMG, I’m SO sorry, what has he done?” fashion, and been highly apologetic from the start.A child is NOT a precious little darling who Can Do No Wrong. They CAN do wrong, and they need to learn when they do.
Angry because if it WAS a child, then I’m sorry, but I wouldn’t DREAM of letting a child play WoW at that age on an 85th level character, and certainly not unsupervised for ANY length of time. Especially not for long enough to piss off another player.
Angry because if it WASN’T a child, then there are some bloody pathetic people out there. And I should have left the ticket stand.
Having said all that, I had a lovely response from the GM regarding my follow up. They were going to take my update into consideration when investigating, and I’m happy to hear that. If it is a pure asshole adult griefing, then they won’t just have griefed me. If it is a parent, then harsh as it might sound, they deserve a smacked wrist at the least for letting such a young child play unsupervised.
And finally, I want to say thank you to the lovely WoW ladies on LJ for their numerous and supportive responses to my initial post there – they all made me feel a lot better and a lot less guilty, as did all my very lovely guildies who knew about what happened yesterday. Even if I was hideously shakey still when running heroics with them last night!